If you’re craving more of an oral stimulation feel, a suction vibrator or air pressure toy will definitely take your partnered or solo play to the next level. Let’s help you ease in by sharing many different options that have rave reviews from me and my team. (Hi, sex therapist here!) Satisfyer Pro 2, $50 This biird is made with medical-grade silicone, shaped to fit perfectly in your hand, soft in the places you’re going to want to squeeze, and firmer in the areas you need firmness. It’s an absolutely brilliantly designed toy. Biird Cuddly Bird, $107 This toy was also designed to stimulate pleasure on the clitoris and all the nerve endings around it. This design feature did increase the sensations and intensity of this toy, compared to toys designed only for the head of the clitoris. This toy is also waterproof and has 10 powerful settings, so there is a lot of exploring to do when it comes to finding your perfect speed. Lora DiCarlo Baci, $135 We-Vibe’s intention is to create products that enhance playfulness, intimacy, and sexual satisfaction. For many vulva/penis partnered couples, these toys are designed to stimulate the clitoris during penetrative vaginal intercourse. The company also prides itself on creating toys that aren’t intimidating. So, the inventor Bruce Murison took it upon himself to design beautifully crafted toys for partnered use made out of excellent materials and that provide intense pleasure to everyone involved…and who doesn’t love that? We-Vibe Melt, $140 The Aer suctions to the clitoris and generates pulses of air that mimic oral sex when lube is involved, too. The toy is made with medical-grade silicone, is fully waterproof, has five patterns and five intensities, and can be used all over the body (in addition to the clitoris!). In fact, one of the reasons this toy is on my list is that it can be used on multiple body parts—regardless of the genitalia. Its opening is larger and more oval in shape than most clitoral suction or air toys, so the Dame Aer is an excellent toy to use on nipples, the perineum, labia, and all sorts of fun places. It’s also not a super-strong air pulse, making this an excellent toy for anyone more sensitive to the suction or air pressure sensations. Dame Aer, $95 This toy was designed with every clitoris in mind. Unfortunately, some toys’ lowest settings are too powerful for many vulva owners, while some aren’t powerful enough. The 12 settings offer more of a wide range and more exploration opportunities for you while you are exploring what your body responds to best. Womanizer Premium, $200 Bellesa is a sex toy and porn company created by women to prioritize pleasure for vulva owners, whether it’s physically with their toys or visually through their unique porn. They strive to make sex toys approachable to all vulva owners and offer women the same accessibility when it comes to porn. Meaning that it is entirely ethically made porn and shot from a gaze that also appeals to more genders than just men. Who doesn’t love watching fully consenting porn that is designed for the pleasure of every viewer? Bellesa Buzzfeed AirVibe, $69 Remember, if you’re having difficulty positioning your suction toy in the just-right spot, apply some lube and don’t be afraid to move it around until it feels nicely sealed in a way that feels satisfying to you! (Here’s mbg’s full guide on how to use a vibrator.) Each and everybody (and every body) is so, so different and receives pleasure so differently. Remember that there is no right way to feel pleasure and that you get to choose for yourself what you like. Rachel has been featured widely in the media, including on Cheddar TV and PIX 11 (NYC); as a regular contributor to SHAPE, INSIDER, mindbodygreen, InStyle, The Dipp, and Well & Good; and in Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, NBC News Radio, Huffington Post, and hundreds of other outlets. She has brought her message to stages across the globe, was SHAPE Magazine’s Sex Relationships Coach, and created the virtual workshop series What You Wish You Learned in School: Sex Ed, and she is currently one of mindbodygreen’s article review experts. She also recently did a show at Green Room 42 in NYC called “One Night Stand: A Night for Sexier & Healthier Broadway.” Rachel lives in New York and loves live theatre so much. You can probably find her in PJs eating gluten-free food with one of her partners if she’s not working! Learn more at www.rachelwrightnyc.com or connect in her cozy corner of Instagram, @thewright_rachel.
